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BK Blog Post
Posted by Kathy Caprino.
Kathy Caprino, M.A. is a nationally-recognized women’s work-life expert, executive and career coach, author, and speaker specializing in helping women gain empowerment and self-mastery to navigate successfully through major challenges.
I had a fascinating experience this weekend that helped me understand even more deeply why we don’t take action to help ourselves when we need it and why, under the right circumstances, we will.
I’m a trained therapist, career coach, writer, speaker and trainer, and in my work with professionals and through my writing, I hear from literally thousands of women and men who share that they’ve put off getting help for months, years, even for a most of a lifetime. Deep down, they know they need help, and they know they’re miserable and can’t fix the situation by themselves, yet they so often do nothing to help themselves.
Why don’t we take action to help ourselves?
I’ve developed my own courses to help women step forward and take concrete action to gain the clarity, confidence, courage and connections to build the lives and careers they long for, and I’m always intrigued at a phenomenon I see every year – that thousands of people will take my free webinars, stay on my mailing list for years, and even tell me directly that they need my help urgently, yet many will never pull the trigger to get that help.
So this weekend, when I did “pull the trigger” on getting outside help that I’d been longing for, I decided to stop and study exactly what motivated me to take action. I wanted to understand clearly for myself what was going on in my life and in my situation today that made me stop, pull out my credit card, plunk down the money and finally say YES! to getting the help I needed and want.
The help I chose to move forward with (and register for) is this amazing course – The Heart of the Matter: How to Live with Compassion and Courage, offered by the beloved and renowned Buddhist teacher, author, nun and mother, Pema Chödrön. So why did I say “YES!” to myself, to obtain this type of help?
Here’s what I figured out. I said “YES!” to myself and to this because:
(This sounds like an ad for the course, doesn’t it!)
When I look at the surveys I’ve conducted and comments I’ve received from people with all the reasons they don’t take action, and why they say no to themselves instead of “YES!” I hear underneath these comments a litany of excuses that we humans use to stop ourselves from climbing out of the very tiny box we’ve trapped ourselves in.
I hear this:
“I guess I’ll stay stuck as I am” instead of:
“I’m ready to change what I’m doing to be MORE of who I am, and I’m prepared to do something bold NOW.”
Below are the top 8 excuses I hear from people who remain stuck for a lifetime, and never take action to help themselves live and work happier:
The reality is this: you won’t figure it out on your own. You can’t.
As Einstein so powerfully put:
“We cannot solve a problem on the level of consciousness that created it.”
No truer words have ever been spoken. You can’t solve your problems alone and in a vacuum because you’ll be trying (in vain) to apply your same limiting beliefs, mindsets, actions and ways of operating, all the while you’re trying to break free of them.
I know this because I wasted 18 painful and sad years in a corporate career that was wrong, wrong, wrong for me. I wasted so much time, and so much life’s energy doing work that wasn’t at all aligned with what I truly cared about, or with who I was, deep down. (Here’s a video about my personal story on that.). When I finally got moving and got help (after a brutal layoff in the days following 9/11) – earned my Masters degree as a therapist, trained as a coach, and moved forward building the business and career that’s right for me, I realized that it’s BOLD action we have to take every single day if we want to live happy, fulfilled lives.
Given all this that keeps us stuck, I’d like to ask you to answer – honestly and deeply – three questions today…
Whatever your answers to these questions, I hope they lead you to take action and DO something powerful and bold for yourself today. Just one step.
Please share your thoughts below — What will you say YES! to today that you’ve been dreaming of? What are you ready to finally embrace, and what will you do to get there? Let me know!
To build a happier, more fulfilling life and career, join me in my Amazing Career Project online course today. (Early bird enrollment — and the chance to save $1,000 — ends April 18th.)
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