The #1 Answer to ‘Why Me’

Stacey Hall Posted by Stacey Hall, Author, Keynote Presenter, Strategies and Tools to Attract, Expand, & Retain Passionately Successful Teams, Chi-To-Be!, LLC.

Stacey Hall, as CEO & Founder of Chi-To-Be!,LLC, is known globally as "The Team Attraction and Retention Expert'  since creating the Strategic Attraction Planning Process introduced to the world in 2001.

The #1 Answer to ‘Why Me’

“There’s not a chance we’ll reach our full potential until we stop blaming each other and start practicing personal accountability.” ~ John Miller


Why Not Me


There is a real possibility that I AM Powerfully in charge of my life.

I recently had a conversation with a woman who was explaining to me that she felt out of control because of the demands made on her by the people in her life. She shared a litany of challenges, problems, and injustices she experienced that she said were caused by the people in her life.

Throughout the conversation, she often repeated the phrase, ‘Why Me?’

Each time she said, ‘Why Me?, I replied with this question: “What is your B-All goal?’

And, each time, her answer was that she did not have one.

When she was finished venting her upsets and was a bit calmer, I explained why it is so important to have a B-All.

I explained to her that a B-All goal is the most important goal that one sets to achieve before they die. I also explained how important it is to keep our focus firmly centered on our B-All goal so that nothing can pull us off our path towards achieving it.

Without a B-All (and a commitment to achieving it), it is very easy to give our power over to other people in our lives who make requests — as well as demands — for our time.

‘Why Me?’ is a question asked only by people who feel victimized by the people they have allowed to be in their lives.

Conversely, the question — ‘How Can I Achieve My B-All with Velocity and Ease?’ — is a question asked by people who recognize that they are in charge of choosing who will receive their time, attention and energy.

These are the people who feel in charge of their life.

These are the people who refuse to let others steer them off course to the fulfillment of their greatest goal.

These are the people who take a breath before responding to requests from other people to determine if saying ‘yes’ to the request will move them further away…or closer to the achievement of their B-All.

So, if you choose to release yourself from ‘shoulds’ and obligations you feel that other people are attempting to impose on you, then take a moment now to meditate on the question: What is the greatest goal I intend to achieve before I die?

And, you may also want to watch my TEDx presentation on the topic of ‘Stop Shoulding On Your Self’ at

Once you are firmly focused on your B-All, you will more easily create new boundaries and possibilities in your relationships with others.

And, you will transform ‘Why Me?’ to ‘I AM Powerful!’


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This is the essential oil I AM using today to ensure I AM staying connected to what is most important to me:


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1. Read Chapter 11 in ‘Chi-To-Be! Achieving Your Ultimate B-All ‘ or Listen to the ‘Chi-To-Be! Basic Series CDs‘ for more Energy Surges and tips related to this Chi-Lift.

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BE Energized — BE Powerful — Take Life By Your B-All!

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Thanks For Riding The Chi With Me,

Stacey Hall, L.S.H. C.A.C. C.R.P. C.N.T.C

CEO & Founder
The Hall System of Intuitive Wellness
Chi-To-Be! Author, Creator, Catalyst
“The #1 Answer to ‘Why Me'”