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Effective Apology

From JetBlue to Eliot Spitzer, John Edwards to Pete Rose, at some point everyone needs to know how to make an effective a...

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    John Kador commented on Anna Leinberger's blog post When Co-Authors Fight!

    When there is conflict, the best strategy is to sget everyone off email.  It just amplies misunderstandings and invites thoughtless behavior.  I've often collaborated with co-authors.  The best solution is to resolve conflicts in person.  Next best is the phone.  Email just makes tense situations... ...Read more

    December 20, 2015

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    John Kador commented on Berrett-Koehler Staff's blog post Rest in Peace Jamie Showkeir

    Jamie was alive to the moment. He lived into this attitude even when he was dying.  I don't know many people who actually lived into and out of their philosophy so completely and courageously.  That's something I'll always keep with me. Jamie, you remain a teacher and friend. Nothing can take tha... ...Read more

    August 20, 2015

  • Apology in the Movies: Magic Mike (2012)

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    Apology in the Movies: Magic Mike (2012)

    Magic Mike is a 2012 comedy directed by Steven Soderbergh, and starring Matthew McConaughey, and Channing Tatum.  The plot revolves around a male strip club owned by Dallas (McConaughey) and the characters that strip for him.  Adam (Alex Pettyfer) is a lost nineteen-year-old who enters the worl...

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    March 6, 2015

  • Apology of the Week: San Diego Mayor and the “Devil-Made-Me-Do-It” Apology

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    Apology of the Week: San Diego Mayor and the “Devil-Made-Me-Do-It” Apology

    Maureen O’Connor, San Diego’s first female mayor, recently acknowledged in federal court that she stole $2.1 million from her late husband’s charitable foundation during a decade-long gambling spree. At a news conference, she said blamed her behavior on a brain tumor that was diagnosed in 2011...

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    March 6, 2015

  • Jonah Lehrer and the $20,000 Apology Speech

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    Jonah Lehrer and the $20,000 Apology Speech

    In July 2012 I blogged about Jonah Lehrer, the rising journalist and author of three books who flamed out over charges of fabrication and plagiarism, and his apology.  Even though it was a decent apology, it seemed unlikely that Lehrer would soon be trusted as a public figure. Mea CulpaNow Leh...

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    March 6, 2015

  • Apology in the Movies: Pitch Perfect (2012)

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    Apology in the Movies: Pitch Perfect (2012)

    Pitch Perfect is a 2012 American musical comedy featuring a large ensemble cast of college students who belong to competing a cappella singing groups as they compete with other groups to win a championship.   The competition between the groups is mirrored by competition between two strong-will...

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    March 6, 2015

  • Apology of the Week: Penn State Trustee and Merck CEO Kenneth Frazier Apologizes

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    Apology of the Week: Penn State Trustee and Merck CEO Kenneth Frazier Apologizes

    The fallout from the Penn State University Jerry Sandusky child molestation matter continues to be toxic. At a recent Penn State Board of Trustees meeting, Kenneth Frazier, a Penn State alumni, member of the board, and CEO and chairman of Merck Pharmaceutical had an angry exchange with Bill Clu...

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    March 6, 2015

  • Judges Rule that Apology Doesn’t Mean Having to Accept Responsibility

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    Judges Rule that Apology Doesn’t Mean Having to Accept Responsibility

    Judges have some peculiar ideas about apology. First, Solano County, California juvenile court judge, John  Ellis made a youthful offender write an apology to his victim, in this case his former teacher. Many judges force offenders to apologize to victims. I don’t think forced apologies are worth...

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    March 6, 2015

  • Apology and Toilet Training

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    Apology and Toilet Training

    A recent report on NPR described some specious research that suggested that apologizing doesn’t make the offender feel better. That refusing to apologize can actually feel good. That may be so, but only in the most self-defeating, anal-retentive kind of way. Want to feel better? Apologize. ...

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    March 6, 2015

  • NJ Governor Christie Apologizes–But For What?

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    NJ Governor Christie Apologizes–But For What?

      N.J. Governor Chris Christie offered a series of apologies in response to disclosures that some of his top political deputies were responsible for a stunt of petty political revenge that inconvenienced tens of thousands of commuters and residents of Fort Lee on the New Jersey side of the Geo...

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    March 6, 2015

  • Apology is Like Being Served a Meal. What Does Sincerity Have to Do With It?

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    Apology is Like Being Served a Meal. What Does Sincerity Have to Do With It?

      Is there such a thing as an insincere waiter? An inattentive waiter, sure. An incompetent waiter, all too often. Even a surly waiter, on thankfully rare occasions. But if your meal is delivered accurately, politely, in a timely manner, do you ever speculate if the waiter’s heart is really i...

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    March 6, 2015

  • Apology in the Movies: Smashed (2012)

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    Apology in the Movies: Smashed (2012)

      In Smashed, a 2012 film about an elementary school teacher dealing with alcoholism, the consequences of alcoholism and the power of apology are depicted in sharp relief. Alcoholics lie—all addicts lie. That’s one reality the movie depicts. Also true: it’s often the deception that creates the...

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    March 6, 2015

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